Thursday 12 May 2011
Zeepo's Spot: where i get to write what i want whenever i want!!!: Weave Haters...
Zeepo's Spot: where i get to write what i want whenever i want!!!: Weave Haters...: "I just had to write about this…so these 2 women at the bank were going on about my weave or “fake hair” according to them, saying I’m trying..."
Weave Haters...
I just had to write about this…so these 2 women at the bank were going on about my weave or “fake hair” according to them, saying I’m trying to be white. Ooh plz I’m as black as they can be and I’m sooo proud, I don’t need no afro to prove that I’m black.
I don’t understand why people equate wearing weave as self hate, but for the record jus because one wears a weave doesn’t mean they hate themselves. It not about pretending to have long hair like “white people” as most of you say. We wear weaves to look good.
I wear weaves but I am not embarrassed/ uncomfortable to wear my own hair but I don’t, simply because it looks like a mess before the end of the day…and weaves are easy to manage.
I wear jewelry to look good, I wear lipstick because I like the way It makes my lips look.
People wear fake nails all the time but I don’t see you going on and raving about them being fake. Its funny that you have a problem with us (people who wear weaves) but you’re constantly fooled by these celebrity women who wear them. I know most of y’all were surprised to know Lauren London, Beyonce, Gabrielle Union wear weave and damn they look good …but ooh! Just because you see them on tv their hair cant be fake, right?... well you’re wrong just as you’re wrong about us trying to be white.
Now you all can stop going on about us trying to be white…if you feel having afro or shaving your hair makes you black then go ahead. But to me being black is not determined by my hair and I don’t wear weave because I want to be white, I wear it to look good, a weave is just some sort of fashion accessory…just like that that “fake gold tooth” you have lol
Monday 9 May 2011
My Parents were right all along!
I remmber when i was 15 , i used to hate my parents. They didn't want me to go out at night with friends, didnt want to buy me a cellphone and always said no whenever i asked for stuff "we don't have the money" my mom would always say...or "you dont really need that". She doesn't know what i need, i thought to myself . And as a teenager you always wanna keep up with the latest trends and fashion and my parents didn't wanna buy me all the things i wanted and for that i hated them so much...the only time i got what i asked for was when i asked for school stuff. At17 when i started dating, my mom would say "you dont need a boyfriend, wait till you're older, boys are just going to hurt you and complicate your life"
My mom would say "we know whats best for you and we know what you need... so we might not be giving you all that you want but i know we're giving you everything that you need" and i didnt understand that then.
Years went by and i finally went to high school and then Varsity...things i learned a lot of things. I now had to actually decide what was more important and had to make choices. My parents would send my money each month...and i was never enough to cover everything that i needed, and i had to priorities between what i needed and what i wanted. Now i understood what my Parents meant when they say "we dont have money to but that" or "you dont really need that". But the only thing that was different now was that i could buy what i wanted if i wanted to, well for the first year i did just that bought me all i needed but only to find out i spent everything way before month end. As for going out...i could go out to whereever whenever i needed to but in most cases i 'd stay in my room during weekend and not go out. The problem is that we want most what we can't have.
So now i am working and my little sisters phone me asking for stuff and guess what i say "i dont have the money for that" or "you dont really need that"...and sometimes i sit and think..Shit!!! I'm starting to sound just like my mother. And i realise that i'm a grown up and that everything my Parents said was true and they were right about most of the things. Especially the part about "boys mesing you around and complicating your life"
So as much as i hated my parents growing up...there were only looking out for me and preparing me for the future and they trully loved me and I love them so much fo that!
My mom would say "we know whats best for you and we know what you need... so we might not be giving you all that you want but i know we're giving you everything that you need" and i didnt understand that then.
Years went by and i finally went to high school and then Varsity...things i learned a lot of things. I now had to actually decide what was more important and had to make choices. My parents would send my money each month...and i was never enough to cover everything that i needed, and i had to priorities between what i needed and what i wanted. Now i understood what my Parents meant when they say "we dont have money to but that" or "you dont really need that". But the only thing that was different now was that i could buy what i wanted if i wanted to, well for the first year i did just that bought me all i needed but only to find out i spent everything way before month end. As for going out...i could go out to whereever whenever i needed to but in most cases i 'd stay in my room during weekend and not go out. The problem is that we want most what we can't have.
So now i am working and my little sisters phone me asking for stuff and guess what i say "i dont have the money for that" or "you dont really need that"...and sometimes i sit and think..Shit!!! I'm starting to sound just like my mother. And i realise that i'm a grown up and that everything my Parents said was true and they were right about most of the things. Especially the part about "boys mesing you around and complicating your life"
So as much as i hated my parents growing up...there were only looking out for me and preparing me for the future and they trully loved me and I love them so much fo that!
Tuesday 3 May 2011
What makes women happy
Choices! Choices! Women these days have endless options, and we should be the happiest generation of women in history. We choose if we wanna get married or not, have children and when. Interesting Career options are on offer and we have a choice to have a career or to have a man take care of all your finacial need and this is all purely by CHOICE, no-one forces you to do anything. Unilke women from past generatiom , we have a lot of opportunities and we should consider ourselves lucky....
Yet we are unhappy and not satisfied.
The million choices we have are not much and when we do choose we are left with the thought of "what if the choice i made is not the right one" what if i took this instead of that. we wanna get married and have children but we also want financial idependance, we fear that if we don't have careers we will end up depending on men for the rest of our lives. When we do choose our careers we worry about whether we'll ever get married and who will take care of my children while i work, who'll help then read and play with them.
We just want to have it all and at some point we are so confused that we just avoid choosing at all. We worry about material things, like looking thin and wanting to having the latest cars and latest mobile handsets, getting plastic surgery to look younger. But does all this fill the emptiness we often feel inside, does it make us happy when we are all alone in our home. Because all of these material things are for people's ayes, we wanna appear cool and classy. We compete with our friends and we become jealous of their achievements rather that being happy for them. Life is more than flashy cars, expensive clothing labels and all...being happy is more tham that, its feeling inside, its peace within you, the feeling of being loved and knowing you're sarounded by people who care and appreciate who you are. Happiness if being comfortable in your own skin and body. Standing in the rain barefoot, playing in the sun and not caring what other people think.
Happiness is the fulfillment of doing what you enjoy with the people you love.
Lets appreciate the opportunities and the choices we have as women of today. Lets enjoy our independance and most of all appreciate and recognise our strengths and our abilities.
From a woman to another!
Yet we are unhappy and not satisfied.
The million choices we have are not much and when we do choose we are left with the thought of "what if the choice i made is not the right one" what if i took this instead of that. we wanna get married and have children but we also want financial idependance, we fear that if we don't have careers we will end up depending on men for the rest of our lives. When we do choose our careers we worry about whether we'll ever get married and who will take care of my children while i work, who'll help then read and play with them.
We just want to have it all and at some point we are so confused that we just avoid choosing at all. We worry about material things, like looking thin and wanting to having the latest cars and latest mobile handsets, getting plastic surgery to look younger. But does all this fill the emptiness we often feel inside, does it make us happy when we are all alone in our home. Because all of these material things are for people's ayes, we wanna appear cool and classy. We compete with our friends and we become jealous of their achievements rather that being happy for them. Life is more than flashy cars, expensive clothing labels and all...being happy is more tham that, its feeling inside, its peace within you, the feeling of being loved and knowing you're sarounded by people who care and appreciate who you are. Happiness if being comfortable in your own skin and body. Standing in the rain barefoot, playing in the sun and not caring what other people think.
Happiness is the fulfillment of doing what you enjoy with the people you love.
Lets appreciate the opportunities and the choices we have as women of today. Lets enjoy our independance and most of all appreciate and recognise our strengths and our abilities.
From a woman to another!
Friday 29 April 2011
The Power within...
The Power within...: "Most of the times we moane about not having anything, we whine about being unlucky and being rejected. We always complain about being unhapp..."
Wednesday 9 February 2011
The Power within...
The Power Within: "Most of the times we moane about not having anything, we whine about being unlucky and being rejected. We always complain about being unhapp..."
The Power within...
Most of the times we moane about not having anything, we whine about being unlucky and being rejected. We always complain about being unhappy...but you have to ask yourself this question "who is responsible for your happiness"...the answer is simply YOU ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR OWN HAPPINESS". No-one else can make you happy more than you. You just need to make a choice and a promise to yourself than as long as you're still alive, able to proivide and as long as you're mentally annd phiysical healthy that you'll never be unhappy. There is no-one better to know what makes you happy than your own self. The Power of your Happiness lies within you. We all posses this power...it is all up to us to liberate that power.
Don't wait for people to make you feel good about yourself, to wait for people to tell you how beautiful you are...tell your self that you are beautiful and that you are happy. Nothing is impossible if tell yourself that you are the answer to your happiness.
Its time for you to do something for yourself, make yourself happy, choose to be happy. its all in your hands. The answer for all your happiness lies within you.
Use the power within you and enjoy the life that you've always wanted. Being happy is choice, make the right one.
Don't wait for people to make you feel good about yourself, to wait for people to tell you how beautiful you are...tell your self that you are beautiful and that you are happy. Nothing is impossible if tell yourself that you are the answer to your happiness.
Its time for you to do something for yourself, make yourself happy, choose to be happy. its all in your hands. The answer for all your happiness lies within you.
Use the power within you and enjoy the life that you've always wanted. Being happy is choice, make the right one.
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